Things to make the HURT go away NOW !
When you are hurt, there is deep emotional energy inside you. You are the creator of your DESTINY and your family’s destiny. You can either chose to drink yourself to death to soothe that fire in you or you can HARNESS it and become an amazing human being.
My mentor Vinod Sethi said in an interview that stock markets will fluctuate and can really take you for a ride emotionally. So you can either treat it like a meditation and be unattached or you can kill yourself because of it.
People call the goddess as Shakti - meaning ENERGY. You have energy in your self right NOW. It is very powerful. Don’t mistreat yourself. Be fair to all and especially yourself.
Respect the learnings. Document the learnings. You have to move on. You must. RIGHT NOW.
The BEST WAY TO MAKE THE PAIN STOP IS TO ACCEPT IT AND EMBRACE IT ACTUALLY. Cry Profusely and let all the emotions come and flow out from you. Don’t try to avoid the pain, embrace it. It is ,in my view, a better friend than Happiness.
I watch Swades, Rockstar, Jab We Met, Taare Zameen Par generally and I like the Pursuit of Happyness as well.
I was once revived from something painful by just watching a movie called Dear Zindagi. When I was in college , I remember sometimes feeling like crying , but I used to swallow all emotions and think I will cry later. Now even when I am in my office, if I feel sad or hurt - I walk to the washroom - go inside a toilet stall - take support of a wall - and cry - let those emotions out. YES.
Immerse yourself in something , something which will make you think a lot - like
The Stock Markets
Tinkle Comics
Books and Great Movies
Leetcode
System Design if learnt from Udit Agarwal of Engine Bogie
Attend weekend class of something you like.
Teach someone.
Watch all interviews of Shahrukh Khan. I go back often to 90s interviews. His voice then and his
confidence, there is a lot to learn from that man.
Similarly what all college commencements of Mr Warren Buffet. His video with Bill Gates in Dairy Queen. The last 50 years of Berkshire Hathway AGMs - my god I love them. There is GOLD GOLD GOLD in his speeches and writings.
Read the Gita.
Listen to the 3 hours podcast from Naval Ravikant titled - “How to Get Rich”
When I hear about other people’s pain and grief - my pain looks like a tiny bit. It helps to shift your focus from the girl, the boss, the pain, the addiction , the lost family member, the anger and the drama. I have scientific proof that it works !
Read the stoics. Reading Epictetus and Benjamin Franklin has been a source of light for me in dark times. My best purchase till today (I am 29 on 17th Oct 2025) have been a small book worth a dollar of Benjamin Franklin quotes. It is worth a billion dollars if someone lives the quotes and principles.
IMPORTANT - Move. Exercise. Walk. Run with music. Let the endorphins kick in . Its great. Explore Coldplay (. explore Owl city. Focus on the lyrics.
Your brain keeps reminding you stuff because it does not want to clear the RAM. It wants to hold on. Write and document everything in your memory from the start about that THING/EVENT. Then keep it in a diary. Now your brain can delete it from the RAM. At 29, I write and then I tear those pages. Its upto you if you want to keep it.
If some senior is tormenting you , there are 2 ways. If you feel he is wrong - Complain about him / her . If you feel , he is a talented person and you want to be like him and to learn from him you have to bear the thorns of a rose - NO . You have to tell him later not now when you are emotional - that you felt hurt in a joking manner - but your eyes should have that intensity of a serial killer. Also , drink water - a lot of it. It helps to soothe the hurt or pain at that EXACT moment.
If you are sad because you did not get the GIRL or the BOY - I have realized one thing after living for 29 years. Repeat with me - Human Beings pursue things which they feel are good for them. If they are not with you, they simply pursued what they felt is better for them. Good for them. What is the big deal here!
Life moves on.
If it did not happen with that person , it was not meant to be yaar. Fuck it. Move on. Life is great and has amazing human beings across NOT your city or country but the world. You need to LEVEL UP.
Work on becoming better - The best way to get a GOOD SPOUSE is to be one.
As a man thinketh, so is his / her life. “We create our fortune and call it FATE.”
You are the creator of your destiny and remember , God helps only those who help themselves.
The wrong way to think - “How unfortunate I am, that this has happened to me!”
The right way to think - Not at all—rather, “How fortunate I am, that although this has happened to me I am still unhurt, neither broken by the present nor dreading what is to come.” - Marcus Aurelius.
"Don’t insist that what happens should happen as you wish; wish that things happen as they actually happen. Then your life will go well."
And Finally I ask / beg / request and demand you to fall in love with yourself. Take care of yourself. Fix yourself. And my mother believes that often what I say with pure conviction becomes true , so today on the 17th of October 2025 - I , Aadhar , bless you the reader that you will heal, the pain is going to stop and good fortune lies ahead for you. I bless you that all your hearts desires will come true which are good for you actually and BELIEVE ME YOU ARE GOING TO HEAL AND BE REALLY HAPPY & FULLFILLED IN LIFE.
Believe in God for God is the giver of all things - good and bad. In this process of creation and destruction - progress and self growth happens. The only reason this event occurred in your life is to teach you. It blessed you with the lesson. Pick that lesson and move on.
Zindagi bahot badi hai dost. And the Universe is extremely compassionate to those who learn the lessons it tries to teach. 💎
