The right way to think - Not at all—rather, “How fortunate I am, that although this has happened to me I am still unhurt, neither broken by the present nor dreading what is to come.” - Marcus Aurelius.

"Don’t insist that what happens should happen as you wish; wish that things happen as they actually happen. Then your life will go well."

10. And Finally I ask / beg / request and demand you to fall in love with yourself. Take care of yourself. Fix yourself. And my mother believes that often what I say with pure conviction becomes true , so today on the 17th of October 2025 - I , Aadhar , bless you the reader that you will heal, the pain is going to stop and good fortune lies ahead for you. I bless you that all your hearts desires will come true which are good for you actually and BELIEVE ME YOU ARE GOING TO HEAL AND BE REALLY HAPPY & FULLFILLED IN LIFE.

    Believe in God for God is the giver of all things - good and bad. In this process of creation and destruction - progress and self growth happens. The only reason this event occurred in your life is to teach you. It blessed you with the lesson. Pick that lesson and move on.

    Zindagi bahot badi hai dost. And the Universe is extremely compassionate to those who learn the lessons it tries to teach. 💎

    

1. Be organized to the T . Exhaustively use the Microsoft One Note. You should be able to able to tell all about the task done 2 years back and that is possible with prudent use of technology like One Note.

2. Become Antifragile and Learn Continuously.

   • People will try to hurt your self image and confidence.

   • Be indestructible by becoming so good at one thing that you can say F**k you to the world if you really have to. Learn . Apply yourself. The human mind is extremely powerful and the good news is - you have one.

   • Invest in yourself and do not listen to the world. All of us have that potential given enough resources. You can achieve anything you set your mind to. Believe it.

3. Become Financially independent.

   • There will come times when you will make mistakes.

   • People will say shit to you which you will take to heart and start to doubt yourself.

   • If there is a lot of blame in the air, there is a high chance you are in a toxic environment.

   • I pleaded with my parents to let me leave my first job at TCS at 21.

   • I would do GATE, CAT or whatever required to get out and get in a healthy culture where there is respect for me and where I am taught and mentored not just simply blamed.

   • No dice.

   • In the end , there came a day when I had enough of all that bullshit and went to my manager and resigned.

   • Sometimes I think what would have happened if I did not have that courage. And I did it in the most respectful way giving the excuse of an MBA which I was too poor to pursue. My upbringing is to take pain and never give pain :/

   • The lesson, children is, if you have money, you have choice . A choice to breathe. A choice to work with high quality individuals of your fields. A choice to dream and do the fucking thing you wanna do.

   • Go and learn about Naval Ravikant and his famous 3 hours monologue on “How to Get Rich” and Mr. Warren Buffett. They are the best mentors you can get in this field. They are my mentors. If you are serious , go watch the 3 hours monologue video. Its right there on Youtube but will you ?

4. In the long term , Life is absolutely fair.

   • You are the architect of your destiny.

   • God helps those who help themselves.

   • Your quality of life is determined by the quality of decisions you will make.

   • Will you get drunk and beat your wife and kids OR will you make sure to act as to become someone your children will respect and cherish (like my father)

   • Great is them who - who know the future consequences of their present actions.

   • Treat everyone with respect. The universe is wired to show love to those beings which treat its children with respect. The universe conspires to help such a person.

   • You can NEVER have what you CAN NOT give. This single line ,as I found out, is how the universe works. When you donate money, its a signal to the universe I GIVE money - which means I HAVE money. Not the most rational thing for an engineer to write, but somehow I have found this to be true.

   • The TATA Group gives a percentage of its profits to charity since a century. It does not do any business which harms any human being. It is therefore not only surviving but also successful.

   • Life is a lot parts luck. If you see someone is suffering . Be a candle in their darkness.

   • They might take advantage of you - so what ? Life keeps a track. Your self image keeps a track. Do your duty and not think of the fruits it will bear.

   • Everything is cyclical - I have seen my father giving speeches as Assistant Vice President of a UK Bank , taking morning flights and going to London for most of my childhood. And I have seen my father crying one day with indescribable immense grief that whatever he did for the last 20 years of his life has been waste. There will be lots of high and lows. Be steadfast.

   • Let people call you ******. I have realized after living for 29 years that “In life , very very very few things matter - the people you love , the people who love you, your health, your finances.”

   • People’s opinions are just opinions.

   • People have opinion about political parties and leaders and actors when they themselves are wage slaving for the last 15 years in a system which is guaranteed to keep them chained like this for the next 20 years as well. I sometimes laugh when I think of these people . I am one of them.

   • Every action is a seed . What you sow , you will have to reap in the near future.

   • Let each action which flows from you be from the place of love and giving and not FEAR. If you are doing something because of fear - A Big Red Flag. A Big One , my dear.

   • Life is fair , absolutely fair.

5. Take the feedback. The feedback I got was to become more organized. To show more confidence. And to not ask the same things again.

   • I started documenting everything in One Note and my notepads.

   • I started watching lots of Shah Rukh Khan interviews for the confidence. And focused on learning development to come out of the sewer that is support.

   • I started making processes which make sure that I deliver on time. Like Reminder apps. Like scheduling events on calendars. Like writing things down. Like actually raising questions if I did not understand something.

   • I tried to become more authentic and found out that I am a better English teacher than a support Systems Analyst.

   • I quit TCS. Made sure to lie to my manager about my plan of an MBA which was required for my marriage and not tell the actual reason that the culture was full of blame and my throat burns the moment I enter the ODC full of anxiety. This way , I did not, alas, improve them but at least not hurt their confidence like they did to me.

   • The interesting part , my lead informed to the HR who was responsible for my clearance that - I was not worth retaining. HR said this on my face.

   • What hurt more was they cut short my resignation period because I had planned my life with the salary that was going to come from those months.

   • And the most brutal - They shredded my ID card Infront of my eyes. It was like a trophy for my father at some point of my life when I joined. I was emotionally attached to it.

   • Told my mother after a week of quitting. She cried profusely and I had nothing better to say and blurted out that “I promise mumma whatever I earn in TCS in 1 month, I will earn from next month.”

   • Covid came. I got a call from a Bangalore based education startup called My Captain - a Part of IIM B seed investment called Climber. They wanted me to teach C++ to 200 students through zoom.

   • God made my promise to my maa true . I earned by spending 2 hours in a week what I used to earn in a month of toiling at my 12 hours job in TCS.

   • I was also learning Full stack development from my mentor Arnav Gupta on the side. And opened an account on Instagram called “englishkatution” . I put out summaries of lessons of CBSE 11 and 12 English on it and interestingly it blew up in Assam !

   • I used to teach English to students from Assam in the morning. Afternoon was my learning classes of Web D with Arnav bhaiya and in the night 7pm I used to teach 200 students about C++.

   • That was essentially my covid.

   • Then came the biggest blow. My father lost his job and he asked me to take up a job as soon as possible. I was not in a position to say no because the whole family’s future was at risk. Good things were happening to me but still with my father’s job gone and my teaching income around 20k to 30k a month was not enough. My brother was in Amity University doing BBA LLB. Now I had to pay for everything ,which I did , happily :()

   • All that authenticity shit goes out of the window when bad times come. It was more emotionally bad than it was financially bad. My father was at that position from 1999. He loved it. He setup the office teams in Chennai when he was 40. And now when he was 50. The company was letting him go !

   • I had no experience of Development but only one certificate of this course. I got a promise of hire from Nagarro as a Java developer. Which they never fulfilled . The job opening got cancelled due to covid.

   • Finally I had to take up a night shift job as Technical Support Engineer at a Bangalore based consultancy called Access Automation Ltd which deployed me to Informatica Bangalore BUT as a night shift CONTINGENT WORKER.

   • Informatica was the answer to my prayers. The culture completely blameless. My boss used to sit in Texas . I was treated with respect and given enough time to learn things and apply them. My peers were from Germany and Bangalore and were amazing and all were RCB fanatics somehow. We used to work till 3am and then play together some games like Mini Militia or PubG . Those were crazy times. Now all of them are married and asleep by 10 pm !!!!

   • I got to know there is something called 1 on 1s where you can tell how you feel about working in the company. My manager once remarked that “you write emails in such a professional way that I would never want to be against you”.

   • After an year of working, they asked me to join them full time as an FTE. But in the same night shift. I was getting severe acidity and felt like there was something stuck in my throat. This is a medical condition called GERD. Unfortunately I had to leave. But this time I was treated really nicely.

   • On my last day at Informatica, my manager told me that he would be happy to have me back anytime if I wanted. This is the sign of a great company !

   • Now I waned a pure developer job which somehow at that time I thought was better than any kind of support job . Which I know now is not true. People you work with make a job better or worse. Not tiles. And I wanted day shift to avoid that acidity thing.

   • This time again, fortune favored me. I got an offer from NatWest Group Bangalore where they promised me that they will give me an opportunity to work on development tasks (25% of my bandwidth) and rest of my task will be Change Management.

   • I was put in time where people were from Edenborough (Scotland) , Chennai and one from Bangalore. Here I worked for sometime and then got an Internal Job Position opportunity on to a pure development role at NatWest Group Gurgaon.

   • Only one condition - there was no salary hike and had to join as a junior software developer. I literally thanked Kuldeep (sir) to give me this opportunity and told him - I am on , where do I sign.

   • I worked there for the next 2 years and learned what is application development for an enterprise.

   • NatWest Group was a Great experience on all fronts - work, people , shift, food at RBS aka NatWest Group. I got someplace to get hands-on experience which is the MOST VALUABLE THING FOR A DEVELOPER. Not Certificates. Not AWS credits. Not even salary.

   • Next I read a tweet from Amul Badjatiya - who told if you don’t earn this much salary as a this much experienced developer - you are severely underpaid.

   • And next I got a phone call from Hyderabad DBS Hiring team . They wanted me to join their tech team as a Full Stack developer for their product called Paylah! (! is in the name) .

   • I quoted the figure from Amul’s tweet. And the HR declined immediately.

   • Finally she agreed for a little lesser but which was like an 60% hike for me at that time and I for the first time in my life went to Hyderabad.

   • There is a particular incident in DBS (2023) Cafeteria where I was sitting on a table and having breakfast when a girl looked at me and commented - “Ye to shakal se hi developer lagta hai” .

   • LOL . I know it is not the best comment a man can get. Haha. But for 2019 Aadhar who only aim was to transition from support to development, this was the best compliment. 2023 Aadhar could only take this as a complement.

   • In Hyderabad, I met few people like my two managers at DBS Bank and few at Experian whom literally changed the course of my whole life. I cant give you numbers because that is not polite but going to Hyderabad was significant for my net worth and self worth.

   • And now I am a Software Engineer 2 in Gurgaon and I like what I do. My father owns a hardware store and he is happy too. My mother is happy that for the most of the day we both are out of the house. I still strive to be useful, learn as well as teach and sing the song as I preach.

“If you cry because the sun has gone out of your life, your tears will prevent you from seeing the stars.”
― Rabindranath Tagore

“Your deepest desire is your destiny." As is your desire, so is your intention. As is your intention, so is your will. As is your will, so is your deed. As is your deed, so is your destiny. ― Upanishads

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Bye 👋 from Aadhar

Disclaimer - I am not SEBI registered stock market advisor. Please consult your financial advisor before making any decision. Any stock named is just for the sake of education and not any buy / sell financial advice.

Disclaimer - I am not SEBI registered stock market advisor. Please consult your financial advisor before making any decision. Any stock named is just for the sake of education and not any buy / sell financial advice.

Work Harder, Make your life easier.

The past guides me, The future excites me and The present is sometimes a playground and some days a battlefield.

God helps those who help themselves.

Pursuing pleasure for its own sake leads to addiction. Stay away from it.

Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken

Everyone you do comes back to you.

It’s Not the Cards You Are Dealt, It’s How You Play Them.

Are you sure you will be able to pull that off ? - Yeah, I will work my ass off to make that happen.

Each action needs to have a check - Will I be proud of myself ?

Make sure that all your actions adhere to - *Never do hurt the conscience* 🪔

“Speak little, do much.” – Benjamin Franklin

To bear hardships worthily (gracefully) is Good Fortune.

Its you who decide your self worth. Only you.

Whatever destiny grants you is enough. Trust the divine will.

Why one peice of Berkshire A is worth so much - One bloody good decision after another. And Trust.

Do not let your victory defeat you.

He who thinks he can and he who thinks he cant are both right.

“It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”

“Circumstances don't make the man, they only reveal him to himself.”

pleasure of the moment is the poision of the future

All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone. (for 30 min)

The fundamental delusion — there is something out there that will make me happy and fulfilled forever.”

“A fit body, a calm mind, a house full of love. These things cannot be bought — they must be earned.”

“Sophisticated foods are bittersweet (wine, beer, coffee, chocolate). Addictive relationships are cooperative and competitive. Work becomes flow at the limits of ability. The flavor of life is on the edge.”

Life is uphill. Its a beautiful green hill.

Seek first to understand and then to understood. Win Win 🥚🟡🪿

Everything comes to us that belongs to us if we create the capacity to receive it.

The Modern Struggle Is Fighting Weaponized Addiction.

1. Be honest. Be sincere. Be respectful .Be hardworking . Compensate in your lack of skill /knowledge if be it by putting in extra effort and time. It is always worth it. It pays well in the future when you understand how the whole application works. Even if today you meet unfair and manipulative people somewhere, be fair and give your most honourable, honest and best behaviour because your actions reveal your character Aadhar and same applies to them. If you act fairly , the universe will have to reward you with fair and just situations in life . Dont compalin. Accept . Wheel of time is anyways going to change everything in a while . So what the point Aadhar ?

   To bear misfortune worthily is good fortune ~ Marcus Aurelius

2. You need to be trustable, Aadhar. People should be able to trust you with their lives.

   Your word is your bond . If you say you will do and if you dont , people wont trust. Trust is the most valuable thing for an employee. It is the base of relationships in corporate . Everyone is coming from a good house . Every one has a good sustainable salary. Money holds less value for people at top places as they have dollars all the time .

3. Get the egg on your face Aadhar.

   Trying to solve hard problems is the need of the hour , Aadhar. Dont strategise/ optimise for easy and less work in the day to day short term. Put in the extra hours sometimes. It frees you of fear and brings confidence that you can handle such situations. It is not the ones who do less work that excel and grow, it is the ones who stick with challenges and try their hands at them. They take help but don't quit. Even if you fail , you learn.

4. Make friends with your colleagues. Take care of them like your own.

   Just like you, your managers and teammates are humans like you.

   They are simply looking for hopeful and positive people who make the workday bearable and fun. There is zero competition. Care for your team. Protect your team. Nurture your team. Be their support and they will be yours. Be very respectful. Be sincere and they will become your teachers, which is the best-case scenario.

   "Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart."

   Marcus Aurelius

5. Keep Learning CONSISTENTLY, Aadhar.

   Do that weekend course. Do the daily DSA problem. Complete that Udemy course. Take that interview. Teach people. These things add up to give you self-belief and confidence in case the tide turns in the wrong direction. Understand concepts like DISTRIBUTION through Social Media, Personal Branding, INVESTING, SPECIFIC KNOWLEDGE, HUMAN BEHAVIOUR and READING.

   If you have not watched Naval's podcast on how to think about MONEY , please do yourself a favour watch this here How to Get Rich : NAVAL

6. Think long-term and Think like the TATAs. Don't cheat. Don't betray. Be fair when dealing with people. If you do so, the stars will align for you, Aadhar.

   What do you want to be Aadhar and then take action today in that direction? Small steps. That is all we need to do today. We all know the effects of Compound Interest. Do not accept the chances of Pleasure. Pleasure is a loan which Nature will take back from you along with interest. Beware Aadhar Beware.

7. Remember if health goes, everything goes along with it.

   Do not misuse and abuse your body and mind for the sake of earning money or pleasure. You know it never ends well. Your body is your temple and your mind is the deity inside it. Don't pollute it with Sugar and screen sugar. Get away from Youtube. Exercise for a few minutes daily. Even a morning walk will work. Stand up from your sit every 20 minutes. Small things add up to bring a positive change to Aadhar.

8. Be fair with your own self Aadhar and listen to your Inner Voice as it takes you the farthest ...

   Do not cheat yourself. Be your ally. Work on your body and mind daily. If your heart's deepest desire is to play the piano or play Table Tennis , at least try to do that during the weekends. If you are a rat in the rat race Aadhar, still be a fair honest and peaceful rat. Mediate, Read and Write as a detox from your digital work life. At least once a day. It helps to clear the mind. And what good is a software engineer without a clear mind, right Aadhar?

   "Those who are possessed by nothing, possess everything"

9. What we do now echoes in eternity.

   Do you remember what happened in your class X or in your friedns birthday or when covid happened in 2020 . You do right . So whatever actions you take , have an effect on what circumstances present to you in the future. You present action is capable to turn over your destiny . Your actions live in your memory . Their results are the manifestation of your current situation. Aadhar did a Btech in 2018 so in 2021 when Natwest asked for Btech certificate degree , he was able to present it . Aadhar wasted time in Class XI , so he did not go to an IIT D but he went to an SRM . Whatever you will do today , whatever will remain with you until your death.

   If you wish to be beautiful, Aadhar, make beautiful choices. Thats the secret of Mr Shahrukh Khan . DDLJ then Kuch Kuch then Kal Ho Na Ho then Devdas then Swades then Chakde then Don . Exactly now you get the point , right Aadhar ?

10. You can never give what you do not have.

    When you give something away, the Universe takes it as a signal that you are capable of owning/having that thing. Give to the Universe. Ask the Universe to send all its children which are in need, to you. Serve whoever comes to you in need of your help. Give them your best. Serve the universe by serving its children. And I bless you Aadhar that you will achieve peace and prosperity.

I loved Natwest when it was Royal Bank of Scotland as a child. I love Natwest now because I am a Software Engineer there. I will love Natwest Group when one day I am not there. It will always be my home because it taught me so many things about SWE and more importantly Life!

My fav quotes which I would like to mention :

"People will always do awful (or at least unpleasant) things and we are only responsible for our virtue. "

“Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart.”

“If it is not right do not do it; if it is not true do not say it.”

“Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears.”

"To bear this worthily is good fortune.”

“How much time he gains who does not look to see what his neighbour says or does or thinks, but only at what he does himself, to make it just and holy.”

“What we do now echoes in eternity.”

“Be like the cliff against which the waves continually break, but it stands firm and tames the fury of the water around it.”

"Manufacture Luck by constant action. Keep stirring the pot. Soon it will work out but until then it will not. "

“The important thing about a problem is not its solution, but the strength we gain in finding the solution.

LEARNING #1. College is your time to learn skills and follow your heart

Informatica is a place I loved to work at. I received appreciation in my life for the first time in Informatica. Before Informatica , I was planning to run tuitions through Instagram channel called @englishkatution which kind of blew up in Assam somehow during covid and I was daily adding students in my batch in 2020. Being in a great place to work like Informatica, I realized what was missing in my previous workplace - Appreciation and Trust. I understood that I should have worked harder during my college time.

You can call me blunt but professional life takes a lot from you in terms of time and energy . You are no longer the uncaring-cool-going to the moon kind of guy .Once college packs up , the world has a few expectations from you .The world being your family and society .Everything revolves around your package . But I will suggest you to acquire skills in college in some field which does not look work to you . If you waste this time in TV Series and movies and addictions , you will be kicking yourself in a future job you don't want to but have to do . This is not a good place to be . Be skilled . It's not about just marks rather its about what will enjoy doing each and everyday of your adult life .

LEARNING #2. Be Financially Literate

Be aware about the financial assets and their returns . Study the stock market and the debt assets and gold and bonds . If everything in life has some kind of monetary aspect attached , why not learn about money and how to make it work for you . Learn to beat Inflation at least .

LEARNING #3. Don't join a job just for money or experience years on RESUME

Don't get me wrong .I have nothing against any type of company . Product Based companies and startups are the way to go because they will actually let you develop things . Mass recruiters mostly want generalist to fill positions in their support projects .Its a trap as you don't like the work , don't grow any skills , become redundant and pay is actually 1/10 of what you get for a good product based startup and companies . It's better to go for even a free internship in a startup rather than joining any service based company .Build a portfolio NOT a cv .

LEARNING #4. Understand Life and Death

A Human is an animal , although we don't think about ourselves like that . We watch movies , listen to songs , read books and dress up to go out . We eat in restaurants , go to pubs and even go to different continents . Understand that nobody knows anything .There are humans who run the world and then there are those who catch a public bus to reach office . There are humans who discovered and invented great things and there are homeless nameless humans on every street of the country in a state of oblivion . I just want you to take a moment and make you realise that whatever you think you have done , good and bad , will be lost in time . This world has been running , time is flowing from god knows when . There was a time when stone age roamed this world ,then monarchs , then wars .Where are all those people ? No body knows . Please realise that each person in your family and friend circle will perish . Love them while you can . Even you will perish like I will .

LEARNING #5. IT industry is NOT just about coding

IT as we think in college is not just programming .Rather its about teams and how thousand of team members work together five days a week to meet a deadline for a company client . Its more parts management than it is technology . The only way is to understand the requirements of your team and never stop learning .Learn to write emails , understand what people actually need when they speak to you and learn how to prioritise . Thats all you need .

LEARNING #6. Work from Office will get you PROMOTED early.

Work from Home will give you flexibility. I love that too but you can NOT build real connections over zoom calls even with your video on. There is saying called “Play stupid games, win stupid prizes” . If work from office is what it takes to learn and grow in your career, so be it. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Clear Oral and Verbal Communication is mandatory along with Comprehension skills

A day job at an IT company is a lot more than sitting on a chair and coding . It's about meetings , presentations , strategies and teamwork . Your boss should know exactly what you are working on and there should be a reasonable deadline defined mutually . You should be able to discuss the errors and difficulties you are facing in the daily huddle .You should be able to go to the tester and communicate exactly how urgent is the testing of your fix .

From what I have experienced there are many people who work in mass recruiter and other IT jobs they don't love .They do not care because it is their only sole option to fulfil the responsibility of winning bread for their family . I believe that a human should be able to do whatever he wishes to do . But whether it be film industry or FAANG companies or IIM/IIT colleges , there is a high barrier to entry . There are billions of humans and we do not actually care about what happens to the 'Others' . The only way to break this barrier , I see , is to have a clear goal mindset in college and build yourself and your skills so that nobody can treat you like just another engineer resource . OR if you are already out of college and can not afford to go for masters , take my advise and postpone your marriage plans for a few years and build yourself NOW , one spare moment at a time .

And most importantly , be kind . You are here for few years . Give all the love while you can .